Have you ever fallen in love? Falling in love can be the most euphoric feeling in the world. You feel like you could move heaven and earth and split the sea down the middle just to be with them. But what, if this person you feel so strongly for doesn’t actually feel the same way? Do you want to find out who really loves you and who is just pretending? Here are eight definitive signs of fake love to look out for:

They change you, but not for the better

Ever since you started dating your partner, the only comment you hear from close friends and family is ”you’ve changed”. Do they say you seem less lively and upbeat now, or that you’ve lost your usual confidence, wit, or charm, Your partner makes you feel, like you, have to change or hide certain aspects of yourself just to please them. You never feel like you can really be yourself around them. That’s a definite fake love red flag. Remember true, love doesn’t take away from your shine or your spirit.

They try to control you

Does your partner tell you who you can and can’t go out with? Do they dictate what you can and can’t wear or what time you need to be home? Are they the ones who always get to choose where you go, or where you eat, or what you do together? In a healthy relationship you and your partner, don’t control one another! True love lets you be your own person, while fake love doesn’t.

They don’t trust you

Is your partner, distrustful, wary, and overly suspicious? Do they fail to respect your privacy and try to read all your text messages just for their own peace of mind? Another sign of fake love is constant, unreasonable jealousy. Your partner doesn’t have faith in you and they don’t believe you’ll stay loyal to them.

They don’t feel comfortable, letting you hang out with your friends when they’re not around. When they don’t want you to spend too much time away from them. When they need to know where you are and what you’re doing at all times.

They don’t prioritize you

Do you and your significant other barely see each other anymore? Do they take forever to reply to your texts or frequently cancel on you at the last minute, because something came up? No matter how understanding you might try to be with them, you need to realize that all these behaviors show that your partner doesn’t see you as a priority in their life.

Because, no matter how busy they say they are, if they really love you and want to be with you. They’ll do their best to make time for you. Instead of just giving you empty excuses and half-hearted promises.

They’re emotionally distant

Is your partner, cold, distant, or detached? Does it seem like they aren’t even trying to build emotional intimacy? If you and your partner can’t connect with one another on an emotional level, then it may be a sign that they don’t really love you. Your partner doesn’t open up to you or share their feelings with you. They don’t comfort you when you’re down or share your happiness with your success. Well, then, there’s nothing deep or meaningful about your relationship. It’s like they’re a stonewall that you’re never going to, be able to climb. If they cannot let down their guard with you, chances are, its fake love.

They seem uninterested after a while

Aside from being emotionally distant, your partner just doesn’t seem interested in you or your life. They don’t ask you about your interests, passions, or goals, They’re, not curious about your thoughts and feelings, and they don’t make any effort to get to know you better.

They seem bored whenever you talk about your friends or family and they never make plans together with you. Fake love is apathetic and uninvolved. The partner who truly loves you will be curious about you, passionate about you, and care enough to get to know you.

They don’t meet you halfway

In your relationship, do you always adjust your schedule around your partner’s and do what they like more often than what you like? Are you constantly doing favors for them or sacrificing your time, energy or other important things in your life just to make them happy?

If your significant other truly loves you, they’ll be willing to make compromises. Instead of letting you do all the emotional labor in the relationship. This shows they’re selfish and only care about themselves.

They easily give up on you

Finally, the most glaring sign of fake love you need to look out for is how quickly your partner is ready to call it quits with you. Conflict is a normal part of any relationship, but if every little disagreement has your partner saying “I can’t do this anymore”, then they don’t really love you.

They’re not interested in talking things out, giving second chances, or trying to find a solution together. Their first instinct is always to just throw in the towel. This just goes to show, they probably don’t care enough whether the relationship works or fails.

Relationships, don’t need to be perfect to make you happy. But it’s important that you and your partner feel the same way about one another and are both willing to do what it takes to make things work. Honesty, trust, respect, and most of all, genuine and heartfelt love between the two of you is mandatory in any relationship. Otherwise, you’re just wasting your time.

Learning to spot the signs of fake love before it’s too late can ultimately save you from a lot of heartache. Does your partner show any of these signs? Or, if you’re single right now, how can you point out these red flags to the victims of fake love?

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Reference: Psych2Go