Beautiful woman, beautiful soul – how can you tell?
I don’t want another pretty face I don’t want just anyone to hold I don’t want my love to go to waste I want you and your beautiful soul That’s from Jesse McCartney’s 2004 chart topping love song summing up what a guy really should be looking for in a woman. But how can you […]
Online dating in Nigeria & Love-hate relationships
Online dating is seen mostly as superficial, instantly gratifying exchanges. In that case, is it possible to still suffer from a fate more usually ascribed to regular offline dating – the well known love-hate relationship? Well, yes. For reasons otherwise difficult to fathom, the allure of a love-hate relationships can be baffling. One minute it’s […]
The Peter Principle: Why casual relationships don’t mean marriage
Say that we’re forevermore That’s not what I’m looking for All I can commit to is maybe. Lyrics from the 1998 smash hit “Crush” by Jennifer Paige. Note, she’s waiving a huge red flag in the air about exactly what she’s (not) expecting from the clearly casual relationship. Yet, if our guy is like your […]
What have you done for me lately?
“You ought to be thankful for the little things But little things are all you seem to give” Miss Jackson if you’re nasty That’s Janet Jackson speaking the minds of many women – What have you done for me lately? This phrase encapsulates a common belief that in matters of the heart, the past holds […]
Does a high body count matter or not?
“Girl, who am I to judge? I don’t really care about your body count“, according to American singer, producer, actor, all round star, Jason Derulo. Yet, in reality, when it comes to dating and relationships, the “body count” — the number of sexual partners a person has had — still sparks debate. While some people […]
Hypergamy, hypogamy: What’s all the hype about?
Every so often there’s a new buzzword floating around looking to capture the imagination of the easily bored general public. Remember “yuppies” from the late 80s – young upwardly mobile professionals? Then we had the metrosexual, made all the more popular by David Beckham. And more recently there was the sapiosexual, with everyone from runs […]
7 Subtle Signs She’s Into You: How to Read Her Hidden Signals
“I’m wonderstruck, blushing all the way home, I’ll spend forever wondering if you knew”, a line from an absolutely gorgeous song – Enchanted – by Taylor swift; there’s a lot of depth to her. Anyway, the line “wondering if you knew” speaks directly to the crux of the topic, “wondering if she’s into you”. Let’s […]
Cougars and cubs: Millennial Women and Gen Z Men
Admittedly, the men have had it their way for a very long time. Older guys aka sugar daddies or zaddies even, had their pick of all available and willing women. And the band was broad – anything from 18 to 55 was fair game for the “aristo”. Add to this the tacit approval by most […]
The Psychology of Revenge Cheating: Understanding the reasons
“Now payback is a bad bitch, and baby I’m the baddest…” That’s singer Demi Lovato from her 2017 hit ‘Sorry Not Sorry‘. And it has over half a billion views on YouTube! “E get why”. Apart from being a cracking good song, modern music is replete with songs about revenge of all kinds. From car […]
Knowing When to End a Relationship: A Guide to Moving On
“Guess it’s over call it a day. Sorry that it had to end this way. No reason to pretend, we knew it had to end some day this way…” Timeless line from the song “Too Much, Too Little” by Johnny Mathis and Deniece Williams. This probably exposes this writer’s age more than was intentioned but […]
