I don’t want another pretty face I don’t want just anyone to hold I don’t want my love to go to waste I want you and your beautiful soul
That’s from Jesse McCartney’s 2004 chart topping love song summing up what a guy really should be looking for in a woman.
But how can you tell? After all, we all know the feeling – meeting someone who seems to just radiate warmth and kindness. Their smile is to you, the most genuine smile you’ve ever set eyes upon. Her words drip with sweetness and an almost discernable naiveté. Her mere presence lifts your spirits and makes you smile in spite of yourself. These are the women we are all but certain have the most beautiful souls.
They are the ones who leave a lasting impression long after the first encounter, and stay top of mind regardless of what you do afterwards.
But still, how can you tell?! How are you so sure your infatuation isn’t being driven by the wrong head? What if you’ve simply encountered a master of the game, who knows just how to act and smile and speak for maximum effect. And you, the poor hack are just another victim of her well-honed skills at male manipulation? Ok, before we go too dark, let’s get the insights of a renowned psychologist – as we like to do here – Lachlan Brown, a mindfulness and relationship expert with an odd first name.
According to…, Lachlan, while psychology might offer some insights into these remarkable women, true beauty goes far beyond checklists. And we agree. It’s that x factor about them you can’t quite put your finger on. But what is certain is that the most beautiful souls shine through in genuine connections, and their actions speak much louder than words.
Empathy in action
A beautiful soul doesn’t just listen; she truly hears you. Her empathy translates into action, offering support when needed celebrating your victories at every turn. And doing so genuinely. There’s a term for this – empathy in action – it’s compassion. It’s almost as if your happiness, your concerns are as important to her as her own. And when you’re not happy, she does something about it.
Kindness is contagious
Her kindness isn’t just limited to close friends and family. So while she is fiercely loyal to you, she still makes an effort to be kind to strangers, animals, and anyone in need. Her positive energy is infectious, her smile radiates with quiet strength and meaning, making the world a little brighter with every interaction.
Yet, she’s willingly vulnerable
She’s not afraid to show her strength and resilience in the face of trouble. But, she also acknowledges her vulnerability, willingly opening up herself to you in the belief that you are worthy of her trust. She does this in the genuine belief that you will look after her heart and keep her trust, while reciprocating, and trusting and believing in her as well.
Passion with purpose
Our beautiful soul is passionate about things beyond herself. From social justice, creative expression, or simply making a positive impact, her passion fuels her purpose and inspires others. Gentlemen, look for women who are passionate about making a difference, selflessly. It’s a beautiful thing!
A Giver, not just a taker
Her focus isn’t on accumulating things or accolades. There’s so much more to life than Birkin bags. She finds joy in giving back, volunteering her time, or simply lending a helping hand. Beautiful souls typically do not need to be adorned on the outside. Spending huge sums on shoes and expensive things will only nurture the more feeble minds. Most definitely not the soul. A beautiful soul expresses through her generosity of spirit, an intention to uplift not only herself but also those around her.
Lifelong learner
A beautiful soul can’t know enough, learn enough, do enough. The work is never done, and therefore, the learning is never done. She’s always curious, with boundless energy, and her growth mindset keeps her engaged with her world. Her quest for knowledge inspires those around her to embrace lifelong learning as well.
Authenticity over perfection
One major character trait of a beautiful soul, well worth looking out for, is her self-esteem. She easily embraces her imperfections and quirks. She’s comfortable in her own skin and doesn’t try to conform to unrealistic societal expectations. This authenticity is a breath of fresh air in a fog of butt lifts and false eye lashes.
OK, so is materialism then the antithesis of a beautiful soul? Can they not co exist in the same person? Well, hardly. But, as with all things, there are degrees to it. A little vanity probably exists in all of us, even the most beautiful of souls. Let’s not throw the babe out with the bath water.
A beautiful soul can manifest in countless ways. But look out for extreme cases of vanity, and note it for what it is – a glaring red flag.
