How to test a woman
Dating is a two-way street, and for far too long, men have been made to feel that only they are expected to “earn their partners”. In other words, it’s the guys who have to convince the woman to date or marry them. Men have to literally chase women. Now, there are of course biological, evolutionary and societal reasons for this, and very good reasons at that, but still.
We are no longer hunter-gatherers, been tracked by wild animals, fearing for our short lives as cave men. Civilization has taken care of most of that. And so, as things have changed in the world generally, things should also change a little in the world of dating.
It’s time to man up. Literally. A guy can be the catch as well. In fact, all men with any value to them should feel like they’re worth having. And so, men should also test women. Evaluate if certain love interests are indeed worthy of you. Let them impress you for a change. Admittedly, this is all easier said than done. But with a little practice, and armed with a short list of what to look out for, it’s doable.
We will explore unconventional yet effective ways of how to test a woman. With some luck, these methods should help uncover red flags, assess emotional intelligence, and determine if she’s truly the right fit.
Now, we screen!
1. Pass the 10-Flat!
One of the best ways to gauge compatibility is to see how well you can collaborate on an otherwise unappealing task. Suggest planning a small activity together, preferably something a little odd. Like a trip to the mechanic on a Saturday morning. Late morning, when the sun is out. Offer a fancy meet up later in the day to soften the blow and see how she responds.
Is she gobsmacked at the thought of spending time with sweaty mechanics in their dirty garages, listening to Mufu making rude jokes about women drivers? Or is she excited at the thought of a new experience with you, teasing if you even know more about engines than she does.
This test reveals her primary interest – time with you, or just a good time. Is she all about the soft life or is she willing to muck it out once in a while as long as she spends time with you? Do this very early on so you know what you’re dealing with. PS: There’s nothing wrong with dating a prima donna if it’s what you want.
2. The “How She Treats Others” Test
Pay close attention to how she interacts with people lower down the social ladder. This includes waitstaff, coworkers, and even her less fortunate friends and family. Key things to watch for – Kindness: Is she respectful and considerate, even when there’s nothing to gain? Empathy: Does she show genuine concern for others’ feelings and well-being? Consistency: Does her behavior align with the way she treats you?
A person’s character is often reflected in how they treat those who can’t directly benefit them. How to test a woman with character should give interesting insights about how she’ll treat your own relations. Remember, if you love me, you’ll love my donkey; let alone my illiterate favourite uncle from the village.
3. The “Silence” Test
Otherwise known as the “I’m not here to entertain test”. OK, I just made that up. But the test goes something like this – during a conversation, intentionally leave pauses or moments of silence, and notice how she reacts. Does she feel the need to fill the silence with chatter, or is she comfortable with quiet moments? Does she use the opportunity to ask deeper questions or share something meaningful?
Or does she immediately turn entitled, complaining brattishly about being bored and how “you don’t have my time”.
The truth? Comfort with silence often indicates emotional security and a capacity for introspection. This is a good way on how to test a woman who is self confident. Don’t overuse this one, by the way. Once or twice to establish a pattern should suffice. The aim is not to be manipulative.
4. The “Boundary-Setting” Test
Set small, reasonable boundaries early on and observe how she responds. Let’s read that differently – do not be too available! No, I can’t come round to take pictures of you in your new dress. Yes I have to go to work early, and no I won’t call in sick for your sake. In fact, I’m going to watch the champions league finals with my boys, so you won’t see me till the next day. Late, because Heineken will be throwing down as they usually do on nights like this.
A mature and respectful partner will acknowledge and honor your boundaries without pushback or guilt-tripping. If she reacts negatively or dismisses your needs, it could be a red flag. Remember, start as you mean to go on. Don’t bend over backwards in the early days only to turn stiff later on. Actually, staying stiff for long periods is probably preferred, but we digress.
How to test a woman…
Testing a (potential) love interest doesn’t have to be manipulative or overly critical. These techniques are advised only to gain valuable insights into her character, emotional maturity, and compatibility with you. Remember, the goal isn’t to find someone perfect but to identify a partner who aligns with your values, respects your boundaries, and enhances your life. There’s no rush. Take your time, observe carefully, and trust the process. The right person will pass these tests with ease.
