Do you find dating daunting? Don’t you just wish you could find your perfect someone without all the complications of dating? Frankly, don’t we all? The truth of course is that the dating scene can be frustrating for most people, especially those who have had their fair share of bad dates. So maybe you just need quality dating advice to help get the ball rolling again. To help out, we have spent hours and hours researching, scouring the earth for age-old pearls of wisdom, to finally come up with the final word in dating advice. And now, here is a list of the only dating advice you’ll ever need. And we’re starting with number one, the most important, trust. You need to trust each other’s intentions.
But how can you do so without a little respect? Healthy couples whose relationships last, always say that their secret is communication and mutual respect for each other. Now look closely – trust, respect, and communication are tightly woven to form a composite factor. An example – if you notice your date is disrespectful, communicate your concerns, and use the opportunity to set your boundaries. Ask that they respect your boundaries while offering to respect theirs as well.
Number two, allow intimacy to progress naturally. So you like someone a lot. It’s only the first date, but you can’t wait to tell them. Pause. While honesty may be the best policy, revealing how strongly you think about them may add too much unnecessary pressure on your first date. You need to allow some room for the natural progression of your mutual feelings. Take it slow, and reveal how you feel, but make sure not to reveal too much all at once. It is just the first date after all.
Number three, don’t limit yourself to one type. While some of us may think our perfect partner will meet all our criteria, we may well be wrong. Actually, this notion is almost always wrong. It’s ok if they don’t tick all the boxes, straight off the bat. Just because your date doesn’t like Star Wars, doesn’t mean they can’t be a perfectly good match. Just because you share different interests doesn’t mean you won’t connect on a deeper level. And just because they’re not tall, dark, and handsome, doesn’t mean you couldn’t be totally attracted to them in the future. In truth, our type is always changing, even if subtly. So do we really have “a type” in the strictest meaning? Possibly.
Number four, communication is key. Most people say communication is one of the most important keys to a successful relationship. That and respect are a great combo pack. It’s important to be honest with who you’re dating. If you’re a bit uneasy about something, express it. If you enjoy your afternoon, don’t try to play it cool or play hard to get. Instead, tell them you enjoyed getting to know them. Be honest about who you are and how you feel, as long as it’s not a bombardment of love confessions on your first date.
Number five, focus on who you are now. Early on in dating, it’s a good idea to focus on the person you are now rather than discuss your past self. It’s important for couples to know a bit about each other’s past, but the time will come for that later. Those first couple of dates, show them who you’ve become. and please try not to talk too much about your mistakes or exes. Early on, they’re here to get to know the person they’re presently with. This segues nicely into number 6 –
Don’t alter who you are. Important tip. Don’t try to pretend you’re someone who you’re obviously not. Showing up in ankara to impress someone you think is traditional, instead of your go-to jeans and a tee-shirt, is probably a bad idea. If we alter our personality or style to fit our date’s expectations, they’ll be attracted to someone who doesn’t really exist. We’ll only attract people who are compatible with someone else. So leave the aviator glasses you picked out for this date, and stick to your prescriptions.
Number seven, don’t control the conversation. Both dates need to show interest in each other. This means you shouldn’t spend the two hours just talking about your dreams and goals. Ask your date how they feel and give them time to ask you some questions too. And remember, it’s about how both of you feel and if you’re compatible. You’ll never get to know if they’re a good match, if all you do is talk about yourself.
And number eight, be with someone for the right reasons. This should seem like easy dating advice to take, but many people get lost in other reasons for being in a relationship. Maybe your friends and colleagues pressured you into a certain kind of relationship, maybe your family expects you to be with someone from a particular part of the country. Whatever the reason, it’s important to evaluate why you’re with your partner. Is it because you’re genuinely happy around them?
We are just about done. So which dating advice will you likely kick things off with?
