The age-old question: What do women want from men? It’s a query that has baffled philosophers, inspired poets, and sent countless men into emotional tailspins. Yet once again, here’s another writer claiming he’s found the answer to the question. Well, sort of anyway. The good thing is, we’re not going to overly simplify things by asking guys to make like Dangote and buy any woman of interest.

And no, it’s (obviously) not about looking like Idris Elba either. Though to be honest, a combination of Elba’s looks and Dangote’s money does make a compelling prospect.

Step 1: Work out, Look Good, but Don’t Sweat It

Yes, physical attractiveness matters. Why else would male strippers exist? To a far lesser degree, women, like men, are visual creatures. But before we all panic and sign up for the marathon we’ll never actually run, let’s clarify: it’s not about having a six-pack, though it doesn’t hurt (or does it?). Make the effort to get fit – it counts in more ways than one. And then there’s grooming: (1)manicured hands, (2)barbed hair, (3)trimmed beard, (4)nice clothes, (5)polished shoes, (6)right accessories. It’s more 6-package than 6-pack.

Step 2: Be Smart, Be Funny, Be Kind

Here’s where things get interesting. Beyond the surface, women are drawn to qualities that don’t fade with time—like intelligence, humor, and kindness. Intelligence doesn’t mean you need to solve quantum physics problems over dinner (unless she’s into that). It’s about being curious, engaging, and able to hold a conversation that doesn’t revolve around your fantasy football league.

A little cockiness helps a ton as well by the way. Just don’t come off as consistently arrogant.

Humor? That’s your secret weapon. Making her laugh is like having her smoke a few joints while you watch her relax in your company. Just avoid dad jokes unless you’re actually a dad. And kindness? That’s non-negotiable. And not just to her, but to others around you. Nothing screams “red flag” like someone who’s rude to waitstaff or gatemen and the like.

Step 3: Fame and Online Presence—Proceed with Caution

Lets do a little psychology now, and mention social proof – it’s like street cred among peers. If everyone likes or acknowledges this guy, there must be something there. And in this day and age, there’s no question, general online clout and visibility can be alluring. But here’s the catch: not everyone wants to date a walking hashtag. Some women value privacy and authenticity over a million followers. So, if you’re out there flexing your “influencer” status, just know it might not be to everyone’s “like” (see what I did there?).

Step 4: What do women want from men? Stability

When it comes to long-term relationships, stability should be the goal. Women want partners who have their act together—emotionally, financially, and mentally. This doesn’t mean you need to be a USD millionaire. It means being responsible, dependable, and capable of adulting without constant supervision.

If you can manage your emotions, chances are, you can mange hers as well. At least, that’s how she’ll read it. And good character? That’s the foundation. No amount of charm or good looks can compensate for being a jerk.

Step 5: No romance without er…

The elephant in the room: money. Yes, financial stability matters, but it’s not about being overly loaded. It’s about being able to provide a sense of security and partnership. It’s one thing to have money, and quite another to want to spend it on your partner. If you can’t give up your life membership of the Stingy Men’s Association, then you’re not likely to get your girl, or anybody’s girl for that matter.

Hence the Bottom Line

So, what do women want from men? The truth is, we don’t really know what women want from men, and probably never will. Just when you think you’ve nailed it, you meet an incredibly attractive vegan who thinks rich guys are all evil and manipulative, and falls in love with an unkempt tree hugger.

So what’s the default? Surprise, surprise – It’s money. That sadly, is still number 1. Maybe not money in heaps, but certainly enough money to offer security, and a jolly good time when required. A good sense of humor, a kind heart, and the ability to listen and stay calm when all around you are losing their heads.

And there you have it. We’re probably no closer to answering the question, but we have at least narrowed things down to a handful of tricks. Good luck!